Our Season 7 continues with the theme of the Diary of the Do-Gooders. In this week’s Episode, Lady Mariéme talks about the power of having a therapist instead of a coach and why understanding that a therapist can help you better than a coach. We hide behind coaches, but sometimes what really we need is a therapist. Although Coaching can be excellent when people are healed, Lady Mariéme believes therapy should come first. After two sessions of coaching this year, she realised she needed a therapist. She felt she was coaching her coach more than the coach was coaching her. Having been in therapy for more than 20 years, our host said that therapy has helped her find herself, grow, heal, be healthy, master her childhood issues and be more pragmatic with her life journey. Many people do not know that psychotherapist focuses more on healing you from the past, while Coaching focuses on getting you to where you wish to be next, like setting up your SMART goals and giving you clarity in what you want to achieve. Sometimes they repeat what you already know but needs to be validated. Coaches can do little when you have trauma and lack motivation; What you really need is therapists; investing in therapy can help you immensely. Do-Gooders see injustice and unfairness and commit to doing something about it. They are fixers.

This season our guests such as Raghu Appasani, founder of the Mind’s Foundation, want to help people take care of themselves. I loved his Podcast and his talk about mental hygiene. A therapist can help us with the mental health issues that may prevent us from living our best life. They can help us explore deep-rooted matters from our past, childhood trauma and relationships with our parents, even when the past hurts. This season, I learned that learning to train your mind is the greatest investment you can make in life. I also learned that if you do not have it, you cannot give it. Some Do-Gooders want to do good, but they push themselves too much so they can feel good, but underneath their intention are pain and trauma. For 20 years, I had a treatment plan, which has helped me. When you have a therapist, they can lubricate your life. The plans could take several months or even years, but it is good for you and your soul.

Having a therapist helped me understand the nature and importance of sleep. Also, my therapist helped me explore my authenticity, understanding my triggers and what I want to do in life and don’t want to do. My advice: Find yourself a therapist, not a coach. Check out iamtheCODE Wellbeing and Mentoring programmes.

Disclaimer: This Podcast is advisory. The Host is not a qualified therapist and is only sharing her experience. Remember to subscribe to the Podcast. Kindly share it.
Be a force for Good. Doing Good Decreases Stress, makes you feel good, Promotes Mental Health and leads to happiness.